Gabrielle Union and her husband, Dwyane Wade, recently spoke out about their road to becoming parents. The actress has been open about her reproductive struggles and several miscarriages over the years. She goes into further detail about what she went through in a recent Times Magazine story, including how Dwyane Wade’s adultery made matters worse for her.
Union had been trying to get pregnant for years. However, the fact that Dwayne Wade had a child with another woman before they hitched did not help matters. “Dwyane had a kid with another lady in 2013, before we were married.” We were not in a favorable situation at the time that baby was conceived, it suffices to say.
For years, Union said she didn’t have the words to describe ‘the pain’. Even after several therapy sessions, the actress revealed that she is still unclear if she has them. “You’ve done enough,” her husband told her at the darkest of her infertility troubles, but she couldn’t accept it. She acknowledges that being capable of carrying her own child felt like a means to bring some harmony to what had transpired, and that her husband directing her what to do with her b*dy felt inappropriate at the moment. She eventually decided she couldn’t jeopardize her own life or the lives of another unborn child any longer.
“I read those sayings now and listen to them again,” she recalls. At the time, I didn’t think this was a big deal. It sounded like an expression of frustration. Because I would have sold my soul at that time to get free from the never-ending cycle of loss. When it came to souls, what was the going rate? What was I worth in the first place? The experience of Dwyane having a kid so easily—while I was unable to—left my heart br*ken into fine fragments, dispersing in the wind.
The couple eventually decided on su-rrogacy and welcomed their daughter, Kaavia, into the world.