You may have heard stories on aff-airs ruining marriage life but have you heard about Polyamorous relationships. Well! Here is a story about a woman from California who affirms polyamorous relationships can strengthen marriage life. A 28-year old woman, Alexis Watts from Central Valley, California met her husband Christopher at a swingers event. At that time, Alexis’s first marriage has already br-oken down and she felt like something was lacking in her first relationship.
So when she married Christopher, 35 they both concur to date other people.
The couple has been living happily for four years and now they are expecting their fourth child in May. However, Alexis has been dating another man for the past two years, whose name is maintained secretly. She said her relationship with her boyfriend helps her communicate better with her husband. She claims that her limited monogamy has strengthened her relationship with her husband to a great extent as her boyfriend ‘meets needs her husband can’t.’
She said, “I always felt there was something lacking in my first marriage. I was fi-ghting polyamory.” “I began swaying and met Christopher where we discuss about polyamory, it made sense to both of us and it was something like magic,” she explained. ‘My boyfriend meets needs my husband can’t. For instance, we have deeper conversations as he is a therapist.’ ‘And our emotional connection was so rigid that we weren’t close for a long time, she said.
Alexis, the mother of three works as a mental health therapist. She wants people to acknowledge that polyamory is not about closeness or s-x. She said, “Most people think that Polyamory is just about s*x, but that not true it about relationships and owning more love to give” ‘We are not wandering in high heels and lipstick to grasp your partner. We only want approving parties.’
Alexis also admits that they often get jealous of their partners but in the long run the emotion has only made them grow. She states, “We are humans and jealousy is a natural emotion. It doesn’t have to be a defensive and bitter emotion, the important thing is how you deal with it.” “It’s important to find out what makes you jealous and what you require from your partner. It makes us grow and teaches how to communicate around it. It is relatively therapeutic.” On the other hand, Christopher is also dating casually, but he doesn’t seem to have a long-term partner. The couple state that their family always comes first and they have decided not to have kids with any other partners; even though they may have a wife in their home who they both date at some point.
It is also surprising that Alexis’ boyfriend and his wife have a relationship with Alexis’s children. She shared, “My boyfriend is also involved in my children’s lives, but he is not responsible for them, he is more like a fun uncle.
Believe it or not, his wife loves my kids and she used to be excited when I bring them around. She also helps us to look after them.” She also added, “They don’t have kids yet and when they do, we will help them as they did.” ‘We are more like a large family, hence the additional support that comes with Polyamory makes pregnancy much easier.’ Alexis often educates people about her peculiar lifestyle through her social media account.
She said, “I receive a lot of questions and comments about the lifestyle. Some people don’t understand what polyamory and they are being judgemental.” ‘I always reply with love and encourage people to ask questions politely.’ ‘When I was growing up I don’t have the meaning of polyamory as I was raised in a Southern Baptist community.’ ‘My family members were supportive, at first they were in dilemma and wanted to make sure it wasn’t a phase but now they are on board.’ ‘I have lost one set of grandparents, but it was not because of polyamory, it was because my husband was black.’ ‘We wish to educate others about the lifestyle and make it more acceptable.’