“Less than 2 years ago, we were in a hospital room holding our 4-month-old boy as we held the hand of a woman who was giving birth to another boy to whom we would also call our son. We unanticipatedly adopted two baby boys, only 4 months difference, and we’re grateful to witness as they both came into this world.
We are so blessed to have open adoptions with both of our birth-giving families and have always kept in contact with them regularly as a family.
Last year our youngest son’s biological brother Sean wished to come and visit us for only 10 days. For all of us, those 10 days turned into all summer. And by the end of his stay, he was already a member of the football team and asked his mother if he could stay with us for the school year! His mother agreed. After living with us for the next 7 months he then decided to get reconnected with his biological dad and went to live with him in January of this year. After he left, we continued to talk, text, and FaceTime every couple of weeks and we love him dearly! He even plans on visiting us again next summer.
As we settled our life at home with 4 children and a busy schedule, we always wanted to add another child as boys wanted to have a sister. We knew sometime this next year we were going to begin the adoption process for one more time to grow our Oram family. So, we regularly contacted our birth mothers as they are like our family.
However, one week ago, we got a message unlike any that we had ever received. It was from Ellis’ birth mom. She has been a single mother for more than 15 years and has gone through many obstacles that no one can think of.
She hardly took help from her neighbors or family. She has never failed to provide for her children and always put them first before anything else. However, this time she required help from us.
She had missed work multiple times related to unreliable childcare and didn’t want to leave her 5-year-old off at any stranger’s house. After overthinking and keeping love in her heart she decided to ask if we would be willing to take her baby girl for some time so that she could get back on her feet once again and become able to provide a life and future for herself and her children.
Tuesday morning, we got her text at 6 a.m. And by 8 a.m, my husband and I had booked a one-way ticket for her little girl to come on her first flight to Utah. However, this wasn’t just any usual flight. My father, who only travels once a year for training purposes, just so happened to be flying out to St. Louis this week and would be only 10 minutes far from where they lived.
Thursday evening, my father took an Uber to their apartment where they lived and knocked on the door. My father had never met our son’s biological mother or siblings but was welcomed with open arms and a loving embrace. When they were together, they FaceTimed us and told us that they were on their way to the airport. My 61-year-old father was traveling halfway across the nation with a very talkative and little bubbly girl. It was her first flight and also her first time out of St. Louis.
The flight was delayed and we waited for them and they finally arrived at 2 a.m. at our house. We welcomed our youngest son Ellis’ biological sister, Skylar into our house with our open arms. And I think he knew that she was there. For a kid who loves his sleep, he woke up immediately after she arrived in our house. Skylar had not seen her biological brother in person (they had FaceTimed and seen pictures) since we left the hospital with him 20 months prior. The moment they saw each other they exchanged the sweetest embrace. They just knew their love and connection for each other.
Within 72 hours she has already become a lovely angel of our home. She has stolen our hearts and brought a different kind of light that puts a smile on our faces. In a home full of boys we occasionally saw the house of ribbons and curls, fluffy pink unicorns, and everything sequined for cute little girls (she still won’t accept my answer that black is my favorite color and that I don’t own a single article of clothing in the color pink).
We don’t really know for how long she will be living with us. As the duration of time is unpredictable. However, she is family. And we would do anything for her, her mother, and our son’s biological siblings. We all love them very much. We will love this sweet little girl and welcome her into our family as one of our own forever.
We regularly FaceTime her mother and we are happy for her mother that she is now able to take this time to do better in her life for herself and her babies.
I know it takes a lot to ask someone for help. Especially when you feel like you have exhausted all of your options. But this is why we are so grateful for open adoption.”